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вЂњWhereas in men, desire precedes arousal.вЂќДesire, however, does not necessarily entail the wish to engage in sex with another person. вЂњOften for women, genital, physical arousal precedes the psychological experience of desire,вЂќ Diamond says. Sex itself can be the trigger for desire and arousal, or a first orgasm might lead to the desire for a second. вЂњHormones have such small вЂ“ if any вЂ“ influence on desire.вЂќД®ven the variety of feelings during sex itself had gone unrecognised: women do not necessarily experience the same progression of excitement, plateau, orgasm and resolution that men do. вЂњThinking that sex just comes out of testosterone is such a falsehood,вЂќ says Sari van Anders, an associate professor of psychology and womenвЂ™s studies at the University of Michigan, Ann Arbor, whose lab led the investigations. Sexual thoughts increase testosterone in women, as does sexual jealousy.

Other research finds that testosterone and desire are linked only very indirectly, and that sexual activity has more of an effect on hormone levels than hormones do on whether someone actually desires sex. вЂњItвЂ™s only in modern times that reproduction and sex are uncoupled.вЂќ вЂњBiology, which helps to drive reproduction, is an element of sex,вЂќ says Anita Clayton, chair of the Department of Psychiatry and Neurobehavioral Sciences at the University of Virginia.

This makes sense when thinking in terms of sexвЂ™s ultimate purpose: making babies. What they have are more variable patterns.вЂќ вЂњWomen donвЂ™t have lower sexuality than men. вЂњDuring womenвЂ™s peak period of arousal, which occurs around ovulation, their sexual motivation is just as strong as men,вЂќ says Lisa Diamond, a professor of psychology and gender studies at the University of Utah. Others have found that womenвЂ™s desire waxes and wanes with their menstrual cycle. вЂњIt also suggests that the factors that elicit desire in the moment might be equally as potent for men as for women.вЂќ вЂњThis challenges our gender-related stereotypes about women being passive and not sexual,вЂќ says Lori Brotto, a professor of obstetrics and gynaecology at the University of British Columbia, and a private practice psychologist. But when the question is revised to ask about in-the-moment feelings вЂ“ the amount of desire experienced in the midst of a sexual interaction вЂ“ scientists find no difference between men and women. Past studies typically asked participants things like, вЂњOver the last month, how much desire have you experienced?вЂќ When that question is posed, men do typically rate higher than women. Some studies have even found that men in relationships are as likely as women to be the member of the couple with the lower level of sexual desire. But more recent evidence reveals that differences between the sexes may actually be more nuanced or even non-existent, depending on how you define and attempt to measure desire. For decades, researchers bought into societyвЂ™s belief that men have higher desire than women, since large studies consistently confirmed that finding. WeвЂ™re also coming to realise that male and female desire might not be as dissimilar as weвЂ™ve typically assumed. As Beverly Whipple, a professor at Rutgers University, says: вЂњEvery woman wants something different.вЂќ Now, scientists are increasingly beginning to realise that female desire cannot be summarised in terms of a single experience: it varies both between women and within individuals, and it spans a highly diverse spectrum of manifestations. Still, weвЂ™ve come a long way from past notions on the subject, which ran the gamut of women being insatiable, sex-hungry nymphomaniacs to having no desire at all.

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But despite decades spent trying to crack this riddle, researchers have yet to land on a unified definition of female desire, let alone come close to fully understanding how it works. It has been at the centre of numerous books, articles and blog posts, and no doubt the cause of countless agonised ponderings by men and women alike. What do women want? ItвЂ™s a question thatвЂ™s stymied the likes of Sigmund Freud to Mel Gibson.

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